Friends

WHO IS A GOOD FRIEND

   ALTERNATE DEFINITION : Some one who tells you the truth-especially when you don't want to hear it

HOW CAN YOU TELL IF YOU HAVE TRUE FRIENDS 

Those who know, like and trust one another; those who support and sympathize. Maybe it's more important to be a friend than to have one. How can you be a friend? Proverbs gives these guidelines:

      - Love unconditional

                    PROVERBS 17:17

         - Be available for advice

                   PROVERBS 27:9

            - Speak the truth

                   PROVERBS 27:5

               - Be loyal

                     PROVERBS 16:28

Jesus choose you to be his friend. "Honour God by accepting each other, as christ has accepted you. "

                                           ROMANS 15:7

Check it off. What's the goal of having friends, anyway?

a. to have someone to talk with at school

b. to keep from being lonely

c. to learn how to be a friend

d. to let them know how much Christ cares for them.

e. to learn and grow together as Christians.

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Dating

WHAT IS DATING

ALTERNATE DEFINITION - meeting someone at a particular time, especially a member of the opposite sex. 

Why is it so scary to ask someone for a date? How old should you be to go out on a date? If a guy spends a lot of money on you, do you have to let him kiss you? Do you get embarrassed when your parents want to meet the person you're dating?

Lots of adults will give you advice, even when you don't ask for it. Here's some. Which do you think is good advice?

  * Look for friendship, not love.

  * Go out with groups. Don't isolate yourself

  * Avoid getting too close too soon

  * Don't stay together just for security

  * Don't feel you have to pay for dates with physical intimacy.

  "Don't be a slave of your desires or live like people who don't know God. You must not cheat any of the Lord's followers in matters of sex."

                      1 THSSALONIANS 4:4-6

WHAT CAN YOU DO ON A DATE

Ride a bike, visit a beach. Take a walk. Share a pizza. Watch TV. Bake cookies. Listen to music. Do homework together. Play tennis. Hang out at the mall. Talk. Hold hands. Actually, 50 percent of the girls and 40 percent of the guys graduate from hight school without ever having a date! Surprised? If you're a "late blommer," it's good to know you're not alone.

passion

FACTS ABOUT LIFE

WHAT IS LIFE ALL ABOUT

Life is good to some people and bad to others. What could be the reason to that?. Some people do think of suicide most often while some do enjoy life to the fullest. Why is that so?. Life is a gift from God. The Bible says that, "in the beginning God created the Heaven and the Earth and the Earth was full of darkness i .e there was no light. The Bible also said that God created the greater light to rule the day and the lesser light to rule the night. Could it be that some people are still living in the dark part of the Earth while some are living in the light?

People who are living life to the fullest don't have two heads and they are the same beings with people that think that they are living in the dark. God created the earth and gave everyone equal amount of time everyday (24 hours). It depends on what you spend your time doing that will determine where you will be tomorrow. Plan you tomorrow today and you will never regret. You will rip what you sow so endeavour to plant good seeds. 

   Life is in phases and men are in sizes. What you do in each phase of your life will determine how you will behave in your succeeding phase. Many young people do spend money before they even see it and that is one reason why they can't become rich and why they still lives in the dark part of the Earth. Some young people are still living in the dark side of the Earth because they do compare themselves to others around them which is very bad. You can't please everyone at the same time and it is also not good to please people if they are going something bad and they tells you to do it also. Some teenagers do injudge in alot of bad things because they feel that people won't come anyway close to them if they don't do such. People don't just get it that they are unique beings who are not designed to be good at everything but in something unique. Life is the most difficult exam ever. People tend to copy others not knowing that everyone has a different exam paper. Just be yourself and don't border about what others say or thinks about you.  A Goat eats grass and gets fat but if a Dog do same for a long time, it will die. Just the same with life. What someone likes may be the same thing which will kill you.

Paul I Iji

 

Listen to the power of Quiet People

   What is on my mind today have the ability to change people mindset about life and it will also help people to discover themselves. Am writing on the topic," Listen to the power of Quiet people". There is a saying that says," silence speaks louder than words". You don't need to be loud to be smart. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?. That's a tricky question. I have a hard time answering it myself. That's the problem of binary question - you are forced to choose one or the other. Being quiet is a choice - you can be more outspoken in specific scenarios or more withdraw in others. Who you are cannot be limited to one label, especially when those labels are loaded terms. Our society favors action versus contemplation - extroverts have a more positive buzz. Quiet people have a unique power.

   A culture that worships loud people

   Our society has a long tradition of trying to define what's normal - maybe because we have a hard time accepting that we're all unique. Being left-handed was vigorously oppressed throughout the centuries - lefties were forced to use their right hand to write. Discriminatory practices against left-handed persisted well into the 20th century. Similarly, people still believe that being an introvert is not normal - those who act and speak louder are favoured. 

   My classmates do ask me, " why don't I talk more,". I do feel as if something was wrong with me. I enjoyed listening to others, observing the world, and cultivating my inner- self. Through time, am becoming much more comfortable with being exposed. I don't have an issue exposing myself. Is just that people are not the same just as our fingers cannot be the same. Some people do think that am been foolish or dumped for not talking much - but am not and they can think all they like and talk all they like. I KNOW WHO I AM and I won't allow that to get changed by anyone.

   Quiet People Have A Strong Voice

   There is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert. Such a person would be in the lunatic asylum. Don't strive to make your presence noticed but strive to make your absence felt. According to the English Psychologist, extroverts have a lower rate of arousal. They need to work harder to get stimulated to the same level as introverts. That's why extroverts people seek bold challenges, new experiences and crave company. Conversely, quite people don't need others to feel recharged. Their voices are already strong - they don't need to speak louder. Introverts are active when they are silent. Introverts have lots to say but also value the power of being quiet. "Silence is not the absence of words, but the presence of focus". The only thing introverts hate about talking is repeating themselves. Purposeful silence is a beautiful thing. There is always a music amongst the trees, but our hearts must be still to hear it.

   Being quiet is a choice, not a permanent status. Mental noise can destroy our minds. Silence is an endangered species that we need to take care of. Noise is both a distraction and escapism. Silence is more than the absence of sound - it allows for free presence of every thing else. Silence is an essential form of non-verbal communication. It's a sign of respect and personal distance. To some people, silence means something is wrong. That's the biggest mistake extroverts make - they assume that when introverts are quitq, it's because they are doubtful, lonely, or suffering. I remember vividly the day one of my classmate told me that, "keep quiet and die in silence". I did not say anything back to him. Silence gives you the freedom to be yourself. It's a beautiful choice that can reap many benefits.

TIME

It is a mistake to think that TIME is going. It is not going. TIME is here until the world ends. It is you that is going. You don't waste TIME. TIME is infinite while you are finite. It is you that grows old and die. TIME doesn't. So better make better use of yourself before you expire. And one of the worst things to do with TIME is comparing yourself to others. A cow eats grass and gets fat but if a dog keeps on eating grass it will die. Never compare yourself with others. Run your race. What works for one person may be that which will kill you. Focus on the gifts and talents God gave you and don't be envious of the blessings He gave others.

Quotes For Today

1. All successful people not only work hard, hard, hard but they also work fast, fast, fast.

2. Good habits are hard to form but easy to live with. Bad habits are easy to form but hard to live with.

3.Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an action and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a Destiny.

4. Your willingness and ability to persist are what will eventually guarantee your success.

5. Thought is the original source of all wealth, all success, all material gain, all great discoveries and inventions and of all achievement.

6. Change creates opportunities.

7. To achieve something you've never achieved before, you will have to think in ways that you've never thought before.

8. Believe you can and you're halfway there.

9. Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.

9. It is always the simple that produces the mervelous.

10. We sometimes need to get rid of old painfull thoughts. 

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CHOOSING YOUR CAREER

 One thing you must know when choosing your career is that "career choice depends largely on who you are and not what you know". What you love doing is the signal placed inside of you to point the way to your career.

Here are some steps to follow when choosing your careers;

1. Identify what you love doing: Always choose your career based on what you love to do and this may include cooking, drawing, writing, singing, dancing, etc.

Before you continue reading, I want you to ask yourself these questions to help you choose your career wisely;

a. What are my hobby?

b. What do I love to do?

c. What area of life do I function well in life?

d. What are my natural talents? and;

e. Who am I ?

Write down the answers to these questions on a sheet of paper and go over it over and over again.

2. Identify the school subjects in which you always perform excellently: This is also one important thing to do when choosing your career and when you identify the school subjects that you perform excellently, you can now add that knowledge to your career to make you better in your career choice. For example, if you're good in Biology you can learn more on that subject to increase your knowledge.

There is a saying that says" if you want to hide something from an African man put it in a book". It is a believe that Africans hate to read so prove that believe wrong by reading. And there is also a saying that says"he who stops reading stops living". 

3. Be creative: There is alot of the same old same old out there and it is true that copy cats can become well known. Been creative basically means having something that people will remember because it's stands out of course. This can backfire if you're too focused and complete originality( there is no such thing) but you should tease out what specific and original thing you have to offer because that will help you when you're selling your project. You can become famous through your career and these are some easy ways of doing that;

a. Setting the stage: : These days, it is alot easier to become famous. Social Media makes it easier and faster to connect with large groups of people. Getting to celebrity status, however takes time and commitment. It won't happen overnight, buy there are few ways to make it more likely to happen and these include;

i. Choose you types of celebrity: There are lots of different kinds of celebrities from writers, fiction, singers and actors or even chefs. To become a celebrity, you have to pick an area to become a celebrity in. It's also good to decide whether you're looking for that 15 minutes of fame or whether you want your fame to be a lifelong endeavour. It takes time and effort to accomplish but will last longer.

ii. Practice: There is a say that says" practice makes perfect.  So if you're wanting to be a celebrity at something, you're going to have to work at it until you're at a level that makes people want to invest in you. While, it's true that celebrities aren't always the best at what they do but they still tend to be good at it. Whether it's writing, acting, singing or cooking.

Put in at least one hour everyday at your chosen fields. This will help you get focused on your creative endeavours and keep you focused towards your goals, which is having people know your work. And also set a goal it will motivate you even if nobody does.

iii. Study celebrities in your chosen fields: See how those celebrities got famous. Chances are however you won't see all the background work that went into getting them to their celebrity status, but you will able to see where they started. For example, alot of celebrities talk about their early years and what they did to further their careers. Study how and where they got the break that allowed them to become a celebrity and how much work they had to do simply to get to that place.

THE MINDSETS OF THE RICH

 You may wonder what magical powers do the rich possess?. What are their secrets?

Their millionaire attitudes sets them apart. The poor people do not have that kind of mindset.

                  The start point

The secret to kindling the inner fire that lurks within you is the lasting happiness. You may ask yourself " where does that lasting happiness comes from"?. The lasting happiness comes from steadily working to accomplish your goals(s) and advancing confidently in thr direction of your lifesl purpose. For achieving financial success, you should bring change into your thinking pattern. In addition,you need to do the following;

1. Start thinking positively: What you love doing effortlessly for hours everyday with joy in your heart has the ability to take you to the front rank one day. What you love, you start concentrating on it and what you concentrate on, you start loving. So concentrate on what you want to be or what you want. Your subconscious mind will help you achieve it.

2. Create your own path to success: Trying to follow others will help you to some extent but your goals will not be achieved so you should try your own voice. Career choice depends largely on who you are and not what you know. To become successful in life, you must identify the area of your life where you function well and you must identify your natural talents. The ultimate struggle in life is the struggle to better yourself and not the struggle to be better than someone.

Many people fail in life because they were trained in another field instead of their field. If you are stuck up with a job which you hate, you will not be able to work toward it even if your spend ten or more hours daily you will not succeed.

3. Love yourself: If you do not love yourself, you will never be Rich and successful in whatever you get involved in because if you don't feel that you deserve the best, you will not be able to work towards it.

4. Don't feel jealous when others become successful because jealousy is a negative emotion and it will only bring negativity into your life and you will be diverted from the path of success.

4. You should not blame others for your failure: Start taking responsibility for whatever happens in your life as you would love to take all the credits for your success, learn to accept your faliures too without pointing fingers at others for the same.